2018 Thoughts & Feels

For most of my life, years have come and go without much excitement or me looking forward to what the next year would bring. Don’t ask me why this is, but I’ve just never been the kind of guy that got all excited about New Year’s, making resolutions I probably wouldn’t keep, and all that hullabaloo 🤷🏻‍♂️

But I gotta tell y’all, 2018 was different (in the best dang way possible). I don’t know why this year felt different *cough, Omar*, but I just *Omarrrr* have this feeling *god damn it* that something changed *it was Omar you dummy*.

2018 was the first year that Omar and I spent officially together and honestly, that’s one of the big reasons why 2018 was the best year of my life (cue awwwwwws 😂). We started off the year with our second big trip together – our grand Italian adventure. We ate 20 pizzas & countless gelatos in Rome, bopped around Florence for a hot sec, strolled through the canals of Venice, ran around like insane lovers on a hilltop in Verona, and marveled at how kinda meh Milan is (lol no shade to Milan).

Fun fact: We almost broke up in Venice over the stupidest little thing. I really wanted us to go on a gondola ride, but Omar didn’t feel like it was worth 80 euros (!!!) for like a 30 minute ride (in hindsight, so right). Things led to things, we fought, and ended our Venice trip with a pact to do better for each other. Our Italy trip was a rollercoaster of emotions, experiences, and above all, a time where we learned a ton about each other & how this Gemini/Virgo couple can work together well.

Our grand European adventure continued with a trip to Paris in February. Now, don’t hate me forever for saying this…but…Paris isn’t my favorite city in the world 🤷🏻‍♂️ For a lot of people, it’s the city of love and amazingness and blah blah blah, but I just wasn’t that fond of it. Don’t get me wrong, we had an AMAZING time in Paris and created so many amazing memories while there. It’s just not a city I’d choose to go back to in a heartbeat!

March was the big month for us. We had both gotten our visa’s accepted for Canada earlier in the year and we officially moved to Toronto on March 23rd. Can we just talk about how it feels like we’ve lived in Canada for like an eternity and a half, but it really hasn’t been THAT long!? Time’s weird y’all.

We had it in our minds that as soon as we moved to Toronto, things would be hunky-dory and we’d be dancing through fields of dandelions and drinking maple syrup by the gallon. WELL friends, our first month or so in Toronto was probably the most stressful times of our lives. Long story short (we’ll tell the long story in a video or something lol) – Omar was originally going to live with a friend of his and we would move in together in a year or something when we both settled. We decided like a couple weeks in that we should just go ahead and move in together, he told his friend that, she kicked him out of where they were temporarily staying at the time, we moved into an airbnb together until we could find an apartment, got bed begs in said airbnb, had to boil all of our clothes, and one of our angelic friends (who happens to be a realtor) found us our apartment in a week’s time.

AHHH, SEE HOW STRESSFUL 🤯 But y’all know the good ending already. We settled on our absolutely incredible loft apartment in our favorite area of the city after a month of stress, zero money, and basically no support system besides what we had saved from Berlin. The moral of the story? Sometimes ya gotta go through a sh*t storm to get to the big ‘ole gay rainbow on the other side 🌈 The stressful times are what defines you and your relationship with others, not the easy times.

Here’s a little gallery of how the rest of the summer went (lots of work/settling into the city, but lotsa fun! 🤗):

Basically, we smiled a lot, worked out a lot, traveled a bit, and just had a grand ‘ole time. We hung out on the GORGE beaches of Punta Cana, celebrated Pride for a second time in Montreal, and celebrated both of our birthdays (Omar won the surprise game for that one, per usual 🙄).

We wrapped up the year by working our asses off during the holiday season and celebrating Christmas together for the first time. December was a really special time for both of us – I’m OBSESSED with Christmas, but Omar didn’t really ever celebrate Christmas with his family, since they’re Muslim. We made our own traditions together, helped Omar’s heart grow three times its size, and had a merry ‘ole time 💖

Aaaaand that’s our year in a nutshell, y’all! It was probably one of the best, most stressful, most challenging, & most transformative years of our lives, but we wouldn’t have it any other way. We can’t wait to see what 2019 has in store for us and can’t wait to share it with each and every one of you.

All the love,

Matt & Omar